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Tease?
No, Please!
A book that teaches kids to just say NO to teasing and bullying.
Hey, there! I'm Chrystal, award-winning author of Tease? No, Please! Many kids wonder whether they should tease and if it is okay to do so, hence, "Tease?". And many kids who are the object of teasing respond subconsciously, "No, Please!".
In this 38-page children's picture book, Molly is teased at school by her classmate, Jake, when she falls on the playground at the park. Jake’s teasing influences the other kids, and they join him, further hurting Molly’s feelings. In Tease? No, Please! readers will join Molly as she learns how to move on from teasing without letting it affect how she feels about herself.
Through rhymes and relatable examples, children will learn that it’s okay to have fun, but it’s never okay to make fun of others. They will also learn how teasing is like a sneeze, a tornado breeze, and stinky cheese! Geared toward children between the ages of 5 - 8, this book also includes fun-filled activities as well as examples of positive self-talk.
Lesson plans are available aligned to state standards.
28% of kids avoid school at some point.*
Teasing and bullying could be one contributing factor.
* Source: The School Avoidance Alliance
" I used to teach first grade and wish I would have had a book like this in my classroom. This is such an empowering and uplifting story that can help kids not only deal with teasing if it happens to them but to learn how to prevent it in the first place. The author used kid-friendly language and examples to make her points clear, and the use of rhymes gave the story an almost lyrical quality that will keep readers engaged and wanting to know what happens next.”
E. Lawson, M.S., Literacy Specialist
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In Tease? No, Please! Children Will Learn:
The negative effects of teasing and how a tease is like a sneeze, stinky cheese and a tornado breeze: These simple similes engender acute understanding for children to grasp the concepts and consequences of teasing.
The cause and effect of our actions.
How a tiny tease could grow into a big bully and what a bully is. Teasing can become bullying when it is intended to hurt someone and is done repeatedly, over and over again.
The top three things to do if they're ever teased.
The importance of kindness, empathy and compassion.
Positive self-talk, affirmations and gratitude.
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WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK
The Long-Lasting Effects of Teasing and Bullying on Young Children
The schoolyard is meant to be a place for children to make friends, learn new things, and have fun. However, for some children, it can become a place of dread and anxiety due to teasing and bullying. The effects of bullying can have lasting psychological and emotional impacts on children, leading to depression, anxiety, and even suicide. In this article, we'll be discussing the long-lasting effects of teasing and bullying on young children and what parents, teachers, and communities can do to prevent it.
Low-Self Esteem
Teasing and bullying can significantly lower a child's self-esteem and self-worth. Children who are constantly teased may begin to believe the negative labels placed on them, leading them to question their worth as a person. This can have long-lasting effects, making it difficult for them to form healthy relationships and become confident adults.
Anxiety
Bullying can cause severe anxiety in children. Children who are regularly bullied often become anxious and may worry excessively about going to school or participating in activities. They may develop a sense of hopelessness and helplessness, leading to depression and even suicidal thoughts.
Trust Issues
Children who are bullied often find it difficult to trust others, especially those who remind them of their bullies. This may cause them to become socially isolated and withdrawn, leading to a lack of social skills and friendships.
Academic Challenges
Children who are bullied often experience academic challenges. They may become distracted and miss classes or assignments, leading to poor grades and a decreased interest in learning. This may have long-lasting effects, leading to an inability to obtain employment or succeed in higher education.
Physical Health
Bullying can also impact a child's physical health. Children who are bullied may experience headaches, stomachaches, and even sleep disturbances. This can lead to missed school and reduced engagement in extracurricular activities, ultimately impacting their overall health and well-being.
In summary, teasing and bullying can have severe and long-lasting effects on young children. It's essential that parents, teachers, and communities work together to prevent bullying from occurring in the first place. By promoting inclusion, kindness, and respect, we can help create a positive and supportive environment for all children. It's our responsibility to ensure that children feel safe and valued at every stage of their life and put an end to bullying and its precursors.
HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN
DEAL WITH TEASING
Teasing can be an unpleasant experience for everyone regardless of who they are. It can leave people feeling embarrassed, ashamed, and even hurtful. As adults, it can be difficult to imagine how difficult teasing can be for children. They may struggle to understand the comments, may be frightened that they will be targeted again, and might even start to believe what they are told. As parents or caregivers to children, it is important to take necessary steps to help them deal with teasing. In this article, we will discuss some effective approaches to help your child deal with teasing.
Encourage Healthy Friendships:
Make sure your child is part of healthy and supportive relationships by setting examples for them to follow. Highlighting healthy friendships, behavioral patterns, and communication can help your child develop their skills in choosing healthy relationships. This may help them to cope with teasing and move past it quickly whenever it arises.
Teach Empathy:
One of the most important qualities to cultivate in your child is empathy. Teach them to not just notice but understand the feelings of others. Through teachings of empathy, they may avoid the act of teasing or directing jokes towards others. Promote their involvement with acts of kindness and establish a household atmosphere of respect for others and the feelings of others as well.
Address Teasing when it Happens:
When your child starts to become a target for teasing, try not to ignore or downplay it. Instead, ask them to tell you exactly what happened. Listen patiently and without interruption, to help the child feel supported and safe. Encourage them by giving suggestions of effective comebacks or ways for them to react. Role-play with the child, rehearse assertive or calm responses, and come up with action plans to resolve teasing effectively.
Emphasize Self-Care:
Strive to create an open channel of communication with your child and practice active listening while reinforcing their value and esteem. By doing this, you can help them deal with teasing better by building self-confidence. Your child may need reminding that they are worthy and that these comments do not hold much weight. Encourage them to participate in activities that they enjoy, engage in self-care by taking care of their mind and body, and provide them with reassurance.
Know When to Seek Professional Help:
If the teasing begins to affect your child's daily well-being, self-esteem, or mental health, seek professional help. Contact a therapist or psychologist that specializes in working with children and get them the support they need to overcome this issue.
In conclusion, dealing with teasing is never easy for children. As parents or caregivers, it is essential to ensure that every child has the tools they need to handle teasing appropriately. Children who grow up with empathy, healthy friendships, self-care practices, and open lines of communication are less likely to become targets of bullying. By steering our kids towards these practices and encouraging them to be socially responsible individuals, we can help create a safer and healthier community.
I BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE 3 THINGS TO FOCUS ON:
As Tease? No, Please! referees, focus on Restoring, Reinforcing and Rebuilding to tackle the effects of teasing. Let's Time out Teasing Together...
Restorative approach
When kids are teased, help to restore relationships. Build buddies, not bullies.
Reinforce
Reinforce the positive attributes of the child to build resilience and esteem and reassure the child that he/she has what it takes to perservere.
Rebuild
Rebuild the social bridge to mitigate isolation, fear, school avoidance, and social anxiety.
TACKLING TEASING TOGETHER
We all have a responsiblility to tackle teasing.
Verbal ridicule, taunts, name calling and relational aggression, can all have detrimental and long-term effects.
"As an overweight kid, I was the target of verbal ridicule by an older sibling and peers at school. Taunts such as "Thunder Thighs" and "Bertha Butt" were a common occurrence. Therefore, I understand firsthand what it means to be hurt or embarrased."
- Dr. Mason, LPC, NCC
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Hello again! I'm Chrystal Epps-Bean, owner of Anchored Anew Publishing, LLC and an author specializing in children's picture books, non-fiction books and journals. I aim to publish multicultural books with meaning and books that encourage values, character, and long-term success. My fascination with writing started as a young adult who wanted to help young teen girls deal with the many challenges and stressors they faced such as peer pressure, teen dating violence, abuse, and low self-esteem.
As it relates to my new book, Tease? No, Please!, many of you know someone, or you have experienced the negative effects of teasing and bullying growing up. Words have hurt all of us, and they may still hurt and haunt us even as adults because the negative words have been conceived in our hearts, establishing limitations in our lives. I still remember to this day how I was teased in the 6th grade and how it made me feel. And as a mother, I witnessed how teasing negatively affected my child. Many advocate having "tough skin" and that teasing is just a part of life. This may be true, but if we can curtail the occurrences of teasing, teasing does not have to be a rite of passage or an inescapable experience. Thank you for visiting the site. Collectively, we will make a difference as we Tackle Teasing Together. Contact: info@anchoredanew.com or https://www.anchoredanew.com/author-chrystal
